There is a sacredness in tears.
They are not the mark of weakness, but of power.
They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues.
They are the messengers of overwhelming grief...and unspeakable love.
The death of a loved one is perhaps the most difficult and emotionally intense event one can experience. As you struggle to accept the loss, it’s natural to find yourself consumed by powerful, complex and even sometimes conflicting emotions such as pain, fear, sadness and even anger.
If you or someone you love is on their journey through the grief process, it is important to remember that there is an entire network of resources available. There are pamphlets, web sites, books and different types of in-person support from which you can choose based on your needs.
First and foremost, please be patient and allow yourself time to grieve. Allow family and friends to provide support; they want to help. Rabbi Earl Grollman has always maintained that “Grief Shared is Grief Diminished.” Having those who care around can help lighten your burden.
Support in the form of individual grief counseling can also provide an environment where you feel secure in sharing your feelings and will allow you to continue to honor your loved one’s memory while helping yourself heal. You might also want to consider a support group, a safe place comprised of other persons experiencing a loss. You can share your feelings with the group, if you are comfortable, or you can simply choose to sit and listen. Hearing the stories of other group participants can truly serve to normalize your feelings of grief and can be extremely helpful.
Always remember, you are not alone. There are others who understand and are ready to help. The grief resources available to you will vary by community. Your NFDA funeral director is a great place to start to learn about support available in your area.
It is our sincere hope that the resources on this website are helpful to you as you remember your loved one and begin to heal.